Honouring an angel baby after a pregnancy loss
Different ways to honour an angel baby
Some parents want to find a way to honour their angel baby and some find it helps them cope. As I’ve mentioned before, what feels right or helpful to one person might not to another person, and what feels right or helpful today might not tomorrow. Your heart knows best what is right for you and your family.
Some parents want to dedicate something to their angel baby or have a keepsake. In the hopes of helping, I listed some ideas that felt right to us or that I’ve heard about. If you have suggestions, you’re welcome to share them in the comments below.
Plant something in honour of your angel baby
You can plant a flower or other plant to honour your angel baby.
Some of our loved ones gave us a rose bush to honour our angel baby and it means so much to me. After our second miscarriage, my husband and I bought a rose bush to honour our angel rainbow baby.
Since then, we’ve redone our walkway and the rose bushes aren’t there, but I wrote a poem about our family that really means a lot to me (more on writing below), and I’d like to add a new outdoor keepsake to honour our angel baby and our angel rainbow baby.
Create a memento
You can have a memento custom made (for example, from Etsy). One of our loved ones custom-made a memento for our angel baby and it means so much to me.
After our first miscarriage, when I thought I might be pregnant again, one of my favourite trees fell after a big storm. Thankfully no one was hurt! I felt some emotions seeing the tree on its side on the front of my childhood home, but thinking I might be pregnant brought me comfort. A few days later, I found out I was pregnant! I had saved a piece of the tree and, after our second miscarriage, it become a memento for our angel rainbow baby.
Write
You can write about memories from your pregnancy with your angel baby, or write stories or poems.
Some of my loved ones gave me a journal after our first miscarriage. I have kept a diary since I was very young and I love writing, so writing to and about our angel baby and angel rainbow baby feels helpful to me.
As a writer, I also honour our angel babies by writing stories dedicated to them and to all angel babies and their families (one of those stories, “Olivia’s Story,” won a writing contest in 2019). I can share some of my creative writing pieces here on Parent Ink to honour our angel baby and our angel rainbow baby, and also in case they bring comfort to others.
Keep keepsakes
You can keep a box with keepsakes related to your baby, such as ultrasound photos.
I have an ultrasound photo from our angel baby's nine-week ultrasound, when my husband and I heard our angel baby's heartbeat for the first time. I remember afterwards in the hall when we joyfully sent a picture to our parents, family and loved ones right after.
Buy a piece of jewellery
You can buy a piece of jewellery or have one custom made. Some parents engrave their angel baby’s due date or choose the birthstone of when their angel baby was due.
If you have ideas or want to share your experience, you’re welcome to below.
Whether you’re posting or reading, know that you are not alone ❤️